12/13/2012

Women's Rights

Women are human beings. We have the same feelings and the same thoughts as men. We are equal to them in a lot of ways, namely the fact that most of us actually enjoy having sex once we get started. Does this make those of us who can usually not get enough sex any less of an equal than those who don't have any at all? No, it does not.

Whether a woman has lots of sex with lots of partners or a lot of sex with one partner or no sex at all, she is still a human being worthy of respect. Shaming a woman by calling her a slut for actually liking sex and wanting to experience it with as many people as possible is a ridiculous act; you would not shame a man for the same promiscuity, so why treat his equal negatively by labeling her with one of the most shameful words in the human language? I don't know if anyone is actually aware of this, but the amount of a sex any person has is a very personal decision that this person has formed careful opinions about through life experience and feels comfortable following through with. In other words, it is really none of your damn business how much sex anyone, even woman, is having.

I am of the opinion that the word 'slut' when applied to women brings about a very negative connotation. The negativity brought about by this term allows all people to disrespect this type of woman and causes arguements to be formed that if a woman has a lot of sex and gets pregnant or raped as a result that she deserves it. One, how dare you say that anyone deserves to be a victim of one of the most greusome crimes one human can commit against another. Two, that's like saying that someone who gets hit by a car deserves getting run over because they were walking across the street at the time. No person deserves negative things, especially if it's as a result of having sex.

"But what if it's known that she is slut and she gets drunk and willingly goes home with a man? Surely that doesn't count as rape." There are two problems with this sentence. The first is that there are thoughts that drunk women are capable of 'willingly' doing things and being completely aware of them. I don't know about you, but once I get a little alcohol in me I start doing things that aren't too appropriate, and once I get a lot in me I start doing things that would never ever happen in a million years if I were sober. If a woman is at the point of being black out drunk and a man takes advantage of that, it still counts as assault and rape. In this situation, there was no willing second party to make a negative decision on her own; it was all his decision, and he is taking advantage of a state of being that this woman is most likely usually not in.

The second part of that statement is also a large issue. The human language defines rape to mean "the unlawful compelling of a person through physical force or duress to have sexual intercourse." If there is a drunk woman who is not aware of what she is doing and a man takes advantage of it, that is unlawful compelling of a person through duress to have sexual intercourse. Just because she is not raped in a dark alley by a man in a black mask holding a gun to her head does not mean that this woman has not been raped once that man starts having sex with her while incompcitated. The rape is not her fault just because she happens to like sex and/or is drunk beyond the ability to make coherant decisions. There is no "true rape" versus "those slutty girls over there" rape. The difference of the situation does not make the fact that this woman was taken advantage of any different. Rape is rape when it happens to anyone, regardless of how much sex that person likes to have.

On another, not entirely unrelated, note - if a woman gets pregnant as a result of rape or incest, she has the right to decide not to keep the baby. That does not make her a murderer, or an immoral human being. This action makes her human, and unable to bring such a child to term or raise it if it was concieved through one of the most brutally humiliating acts that can happen to a woman. After anyone is raped, there are deep emotional scars that rarely heal all of the way and tend to serve as a constant reminder that this negative thing happened to them. Usually they are left feeling worthless and often times like this attack was their fault. The fact that we label woman as sluts for enjoying sex only perpetuates this thought process. If a baby results out of such an attack, a woman is NOT going to want to bring that child into the world; the story of the conception would be less than pleasant, and if she kept that child she could have a constant reminder about her attack and may grow increasingly bitter and depressed about life.

On a similar note, if woman wants to have an abortion it is none of anyone else's business. As harsh of a reality as this is, it is her body that this tiny human is using as a vessel and, therefore, it is her choice whether or not to keep it. Whatever the circumstances - if she is sixteen and can't support a baby, raped at a party and doesn't want that constant reminder, or a college student who just can not afford a baby and doesn't have anyone else to help her raise it - that woman has the right to decide to have an abortion performed. Does this mean that you have to like it? No, it does not, but the point is that she should not have to care whether or not you do. It is this woman's business what she does with her body, not yours. One person's choice, not millions of people's opinions, matters. Twenty two thousand (22,000) babies are abandoned in hospitals in 1993, and if you go to any credible news website you will find many different articles about how many babies were abandoned this year alone. Though I'm sure that some families who had children could not afford them, other babies who are abandoned are a result of the previously mentioned situations. Either way, a baby is not given a chance at a healthy beginning to life; I fail to see how aborting a baby who is not yet part of this earth is worse than abandoning one who is.

In summary, it is unhealthy for society to label anyone who decides that sex is the most wonderful experience on earth as a slut; it is a dangerous word that leads to human beings associating the opinion that those people are not as worthy as respect as other people. Without the thought that a "slut" is worthy of respect, it leaves the door wide open for men to take advantage of her promiscous nature in many forms, including rape. Stop treating your fellow human beings as inferior just because they make different personal choices than yourself. If people just learned to respect one another, perhaps this world would be quite the different place.

Side Note: To any human being who was a victim of rape, it is not your fault; the person who committed the rape is wholly to blame. You were in a shitty situation that you could not help. Do not be ashamed to bring justice to those who took advantage of you. I am willing to help those who are afraid to come forward take steps to feel comfortable enough to seek help and get the justice that they deserve; no one should be left feeling hopeless for a situation that they could not control.

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